The Baby Game

Alice and I are going to be a childless couple. (After all, it’s not a good climate for bringing a baby into the world right now – jobs are scarce, big businesses closing down, griefers everywhere…)   One of the things we got talking about last night was the whole phenomena of pregnancy roleplay and prim babies, and I said that I hoped she wasn’t going to want to do that, and was relieved when she said that she wasn’t a bit interested.

zooby-babyI was intrigued by the pictures of the prim babies now being sold at Zooby’s (the idea of buying a baby from a pet store is somewhat disturbing) and I found them rather creepy, in the same sort of way as I think those ultra-realistic real-life baby dolls are creepy too. At least they don’t look like cabbage-patch dolls, like most of them do.

The thing is, it’s not just the actual babies that creep me out. To me, it’s the whole scene, that also involves scripted pregnancy talking tummies, the prim babies, and the family roleplay (the baby grows up then you have to “adopt” an age-player to play the older child), and the whole thing gets wrapped up in a package along with the relationship and the wedding and everything. It’s like kids playing a massively complex game of “Mummies and Daddies”.

Now don’t get me wrong. I appreciate why some folk want to do this. Maybe a woman is unable to have kids of her own in RL and she wants to at least simulate the experience. Maybe she’s *coughs* too young. Maybe a person wants roleplay a kid because they had a crappy childhood in RL. There are reasons and reasons, and all of them are valid to someone, and as long as it’s not involving pedophilia I’m not worried.

I’m just relieved that Alice and I are agreed not to bother, and glad that we talked about it early – too many people don’t, and then one ends up going along with it just to keep their partner happy, and… well, I guess it’s just like real life, if a couple aren’t in agreement about whether or not they want kids. Cue relationship that isn’t going to last very long.

Me personally, I just don’t have the time or the patience for the roleplay. I’ve done enough child-rearing in RL thank-you-very-much, and I’d be bored clicking on a scripted baby. I don’t want my relationship with Alice to feel like a roleplaying-game. And besides, if I was going to do any roleplay, I have an elf alt who complains that he doesn’t get enough time as it is.



So I totally failed to get on the definitive list of SL bloggers, probably because I don’t post often enough. It seems to be the same trouble I have when blogging about RL – if I’ve got enough time to blog then I haven’t done anything worth blogging about. When I DO have things to blog about I’m too busy doing them instead of blogging.

So I’ve decided that I ought to make time to post a bit more often.

Things are still going well with Alice, though we haven’t really done anything exciting. We just tend to go dancing, or cuddle up on the couch in front of the telly. Funny how SL can be so much like RL sometimes.

There are some controversial changes coming up in SL, most notably the whole business about labelling adult content and moving it off to a new continent. I can’t say I’m surprised, or terribly disappointed, by this. I think it will improve the mainland that remains, at least in that it vastly reduces the chance of my nice residential parcel getting a sex-club for a next door neighbour.

My only disappointment is that I probably won’t be able to get age-verified. None of my ID works with the system they have in place, which is a problem for a lot of Europeans it seems. Linden Lab have stated that payment info on file will count, but frankly with the ease with which a child can get hold of a credit card number, I doubt that will actually happen when the time comes. On the other hand there isn’t anything of an adult nature that I actually need and haven’t already got (except maybe the Lovescene animation from Bits and Bobs). So I won’t be missing much.

What worries me more is the potential limits on script memory per sim that’s being talked about. I have no frickin clue how to find out how much memory is being used by any of the scripts I’ve got, and no way of telling whether it’s “too many” or safe, or what. And if I’m selling stuff with scripts in (which I do) the customers are going to need to know.

necklace_001Last but not least, I made a new thing, a simple stone bead necklace. Its mainly for men but I guess women could wear it too. I’m tempted to make something like this for myself in RL too. It’s available in my store in Ashmorn.


Well, for all my talk about how I wasn’t looking for a relationship in SL, and didn’t think I’d ever have one… it seems I was wrong. Alice contacted me a couple of weeks ago to ask about the philosophy group I’m starting, and, well we talked a lot and it all sort of snowballed from there.

We have a lot of shared interests it seems, and we have a very similar attitude to SL itself, and SL relationships in particular. And she’s actually in the same timezone as me.

me and Alice

I’m not going to use words like “love” yet, or even “girlfriend”, because it all seems too soon and I don’t want to jinx it. But being with her makes me very, very happy.