Holy email spam, batman!

My email inbox today got flooded with spam from a mailing list called slbloggers, which, it transpires, is the replacement for the same thing over on Ning, which I had signed up for over a year ago and hardly ever used.

Most of the posts were from people desperate to unsubscribe.

Unsubscribe link didn’t work (or else it’s horribly delayed – maybe it unsubscribes you tomorrow, or a week next Thursday?)

I couldn’t log in to Grouply (the new service) because, as I’ve never even heard of it before I have never created a username or password for it. I tried putting in my email address and asking for a password reset but it says the address is not registered. It suggested my Yahoo ID which I tried, but which is apparently not signed up to any groups at all. Not surprising since as I said, I never heard of it before.

I have written to Grouply support in the hope that they can explain how I can stop receiving all this crap. I recently got rid of an email address due to spam, now it looks like I will have to delete another.

Edit: The owner apologised, and turned all messages off. Thank god.

drama and flamewars

Wow. I’m glad I’ve been away from SLU for most of the week, seems that it all erupted in drama and bannings, and of course had I been here I would not have been able to keep my neb out. My response though, is here and not in the forums because OMG more drama, and I don’t really want to re-waken threads that ought to be quietly euthanased.

Now I’ve been a member of forums and other net communities for over 10 years and in all that time I’ve always been polite and friendly on joining, I take time to get to know the place before I post, and I do not immediately jump into flamewars and start insulting people. In all these years I’ve seen people join forums, and immediately start acting like an asshole, and then they wonder why they get treated like one.

These people who wonder why they get involved in so many flamewars, why they believe that nobody likes them, why they think they’re being persecuted all the time, I wonder how many times they look at their own attitudes. The answers are there.

Having been a member of several trauma-survivor communities, including one with a pretty tough reputation that I’ve been a member of for over 6 years now, the “OMG I’ve had a life of trauma” card is one that just makes me laugh. I’ve seen it so many times. And you know what? It does not excuse being an asshole. There are plenty of other people who’ve also had a life of trauma who are NOT assholes.

The other one that makes me laugh is the “I’m a newbie so everyone hates me I’m not in the clique”. To that I’ll just… well, first I’ll spend ten minutes LOLing, but when I’m recovered I’ll point to the first few posts I made on SLU. Yes I whined, but the reaction I got was 100% supportive and positive. Why? Because I’d been NICE. I see exactly the same thing on that other forum – some people join and immediately act like assholes, and are surprised when they get treated appropriately. Other people join and are respectful, and they are treated appropriately too. Its a simple equation.

Join a forum with guns blazing, the insults and defensive attitude on full-blast and saying “I’m not nice, deal with it,” makes you 100% responsible for the way you’re treated by others.

How like that other forum, SLU is. And how un-coincidental that they’re my two favourite internet communities ever.

new nifty service

new nifty service
I've been hunting about for a way to post directly from Second Life to my WordPress blog, which means finding a way to do it via email. Which isn't actually supported by wordpress.com. I knew there was a way because I can do it via Flickr, but the trouble with that is it always takes the SL logo and makes that a seperate Flickr pic and a seperate blog entry, so the entry gets duplicated and I have to go in and edit it again. Well I think I found an answer. http://www.posterous.com allows me to send a snapshot directly fron inside SL, not only to WordPress.com but to LJ as well, and pretty much anything else. It even puts he SLURL in too. Nifty.

Lost – an Open Life report

me in OLThat’s the only word in my profile. Lost. Its kind of a strange feeling, to be here when OLG is so new and so raw. I signed up yesterday, and spent 3 hours on it, of which probably 2 hours was spent staring at the “Connecting to Region” screen as I made many, many failed attempts to log in or teleport anywhere. When I did manage to get in, I picked up a few freebies from the sandbox, and uploded a few textures to make my own, and I’m reasonably happy with the way I look here. I’m nowhere near as good looking as I am in SL – my skin here is a freebie one form a RPG pack but it has a ginger beard, and that’s all I really need to keep me happy, even if it does make me look like Philip Linden. And the Dirty Biker hair looks almost like the hair I wear all the time in SL, if I slap a bright orange tint on it instead of the usual black.

Today I hung out at Lecktor’s Roadhouse, and discovered how to use a poseball when the script doesn’t work. Right click > Edit > and play the animation from the contents tab. It works a dream, just like a Chimera.

But despite the rawness of OLG, and all the problems with logging in and teleporting, I’m actually loving it. I’ve socialised more, and made more friends, in 48 hours on OLG than I have in the past month on SL. And tonight when I got home from the pub and went online for an hour, it was OLG I picked, not SL. That says a lot.

Then again maybe it’s my ADHD showing…

(PS: watching the election results as they come in and Obama is ahead 108 to 34 so far. I am so tempted to stay up and watch it all but my old body wants my bed.)